I definitely feel very different about conversing on DW than on LJ
Yeah, me too. I like it so much better here, but I'm not sure exactly why.
I like being anti-social and I don't apologize for it, because the vast majority of people have no interests that intersect with mine. I used to struggle with feeling guilty or ashamed of my nature, but I'm very comfortable with it now. Where I am online, the vast majority of people don't bore me, or even irritate me very much. Also I can just ignore them much more easily when they do.
This paragraph, just yes. I am and always have been so bored by my rl friendships, in which I constantly have to converse about and do things which are low interest to me, and never get to do or talk about the things I feel so passionate about. It's not so much that I don't like my rl friends, it's more that they hardly ever say anything new to me, whereas online I am surrounded by fascinating new thoughts and ideas from so many different viewpoints that I could wallow around in it 24/7. I mean, I have some interest in stuff like baking, crafts, child rearing, etc, but those are pretty much the only things I get to converse about in rl, and the world is so full of a number of other (more) interesting topics.
I am less than overjoyed at the way my reading list skews toward the younger set, though. I haven't found as many older people who share my particular interests, for some reason. Less of us are online, perhaps? Or maybe it's just that I lurked online while every one was getting into group years ago. I've felt the old school trek slash fans seem to be a bit insular, though perhaps that is just my oversensitivity. I don't mind talking to younger people, but I hate to seem like a youth worshipper, you know?
really hate the failure and anxiety rhetoric that surrounds Yuletide, and NaNo and almost all fests--oh, I'm so bad for not writing enough, good enough, fast enough, when I bloody don't feel like it. It starts sounding like diet talk after a while.
One of my fav things about you is the way you reject all the bullshit out of hand. I never noticed before, but you are so right that this sounds like diet self flagellation.
I think the first step is giving yourself permission to put your needs first.
Yeah, that's easy to say, and it's true. Um, its a WIP.
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Date: 2010-01-07 02:23 pm (UTC)Yeah, me too. I like it so much better here, but I'm not sure exactly why.
I like being anti-social and I don't apologize for it, because the vast majority of people have no interests that intersect with mine. I used to struggle with feeling guilty or ashamed of my nature, but I'm very comfortable with it now. Where I am online, the vast majority of people don't bore me, or even irritate me very much. Also I can just ignore them much more easily when they do.
This paragraph, just yes. I am and always have been so bored by my rl friendships, in which I constantly have to converse about and do things which are low interest to me, and never get to do or talk about the things I feel so passionate about. It's not so much that I don't like my rl friends, it's more that they hardly ever say anything new to me, whereas online I am surrounded by fascinating new thoughts and ideas from so many different viewpoints that I could wallow around in it 24/7. I mean, I have some interest in stuff like baking, crafts, child rearing, etc, but those are pretty much the only things I get to converse about in rl, and the world is so full of a number of other (more) interesting topics.
I am less than overjoyed at the way my reading list skews toward the younger set, though. I haven't found as many older people who share my particular interests, for some reason. Less of us are online, perhaps? Or maybe it's just that I lurked online while every one was getting into group years ago. I've felt the old school trek slash fans seem to be a bit insular, though perhaps that is just my oversensitivity. I don't mind talking to younger people, but I hate to seem like a youth worshipper, you know?
really hate the failure and anxiety rhetoric that surrounds Yuletide, and NaNo and almost all fests--oh, I'm so bad for not writing enough, good enough, fast enough, when I bloody don't feel like it. It starts sounding like diet talk after a while.
One of my fav things about you is the way you reject all the bullshit out of hand. I never noticed before, but you are so right that this sounds like diet self flagellation.
I think the first step is giving yourself permission to put your needs first.
Yeah, that's easy to say, and it's true. Um, its a WIP.